This is the first in a series of posts building off Something got you down, FOX News?* Specifically, it explores another article trending on FOX at the time that post was written — The war on men — which a number of my friends posted on Facebook. (This is actually how I came across Practical suggestions for handling the great sadness, but that’s neither here nor there.) This series may grow to as many as two posts.
In The war on men, Suzanne Venker argues that women are at fault for the shidduch crisis:
So if men today are slackers, and if they’re retreating from marriage en masse, women should look in the mirror and ask themselves what role they’ve played to bring about this transformation.
I don’t really care about Venker’s argument or dissecting it or refuting it or whatever. The important takeaway is this: the war on men — waged by women — is actually a war on women. Women take jobs, take away incentives for men to work, and men are too tired to get married. And the solution is simple: women should “surrender to their nature – their femininity – and let men surrender to theirs.”
And leaves me to point out that Venker’s got a steep climb ahead of her. Even within her target audience (readers of FOX News), there doesn’t seem to be a consensus that men should work and women should not. This shouldn’t be controversial. After all, if her readers already agreed, she wouldn’t have had to write the article.
But I think my illustrative story on this point is humorous, so I’m going to go ahead and share it anyway.
I spent Thanksgiving with my brothers in Kew Garden Hills, certifiably one of the Romney-est places in New York City.** (Queens qualifies as New York City, right? Or is that only Manhattan? New Yorkers, please clarify.) There, I noticed a local restaurant had taped this ‘Help Wanted’ sign to inside of the window:
That’s right – waiters need not apply. And the cycle of violence continues.
*For anyone keeping track at home, the trending articles remain largely the same ~14 hours later, with the sole exception that Three words to define Obama 2.0 has been replaced by the more-cheerful Speed dating with Oreos. See, Ann Coulter? Everything isn’t just getting gradually worse. Or as the saying goes, It gets better. I hear she’s a big fan of that campaign.
**And yes, I am speciously conflating ‘readers of FOX News’ with ‘people who voted for Romney’. Sorry